I know you feel because you're the older sister you should be the first to do things: move out, get married, have a baby. I know you probably wouldn't feel so bad if you had someone in your life that you could potentially do these things with.

I feel truly awful that I, your little sister, am giving our parents the first grandchild and that currently is the cause of your pain,

I wish every day that you could have the things I have and I know as you get older and feel like your getting no where that it must hurt to see me taking on 'adulthood' and progressing.

I hate that this hurts you and I feel horribly guilty but I can't put my life on hold just so you can do things before me 😔

REPLY: it's not meant to be patronising 😔I guess I'm just struggling with the fact that it's because of me that my sister is feeling bad about herself. I think everyone just assumes I should be ok with it and understands her feelings, but being made to feel bad simply for doing things first is horrible.

..it's not that I pity her I just know how much she wants all these things and it just makes me sad that she feels badly about herself because she doesn't. She's my sister, I don't want her thinking less of herself. I know it doesn't define her or that me having these things is that I'm more of an adult..I just know that *she* feels that way. I do see where you are coming from though Mallory, and reading back can see how it may have came across as patronising.