Call to let baby daddy know I'm in labor? (Read story first)

I've been debating whether or not to call my babies dad to let him know when I am in labor. I'm not due for another 6 weeks and I guess I still have time to think it through, but as I was writing my birth plan today I realized that I should probably decide whether he can be there at all or not.

Backstory: We've been together on and off prior to getting pregnant. I, of course, was the one who had stronger feelings. I was always there for him when he was down and even payed for many travel expenses. His included for out of the country on one trip. This pregnancy was not planned and at first he seemed to be supportive saying he would be there to help in whatever. At this point we were still talking. Then he started feeling more distant. I began questioning his motives from the very beginning.

Side note I had moved at this point , about 3 months along, far away from my family as they disagreed with him and couldn't believe what had happened. So basically I chose his word over theirs as I had explained to them how he said he would help out.

Back to him feeling distant made me mad at the fact I left my family to someone who was backing away from their promises. I would show him ultrasounds and he would just shrug and put them away as if it were a supermarket flyer.

I'm left basically homeless and he checks in whenever he wants. He is scheduled to take a "work" trip out of the country and makes prior arrangements to meet a woman there. (He doesn't know I know this) I don't hear from him for about two months and at this point don't even bother to check in myself to see how he is doing.

I continue on and with the help of an uncle I find a living situation and work. I randomly receive a message saying he wants to talk I agree several days later to a meet up and basically get nothing because he says he is "unsure of what he is doing" and "there are too many lives involved". I let him know this is not how I want to raise my son and basically tell him I'd rather not have him in his life. He doesn't say a word.

I later let him know my feelings of abandonment, disrespect, and feeling like he just used me. He further replies how he wants to help out doesn't want to back away etc. I respond to that saying how I can't trust him anymore, how you just don't abandon a pregnant woman, how I need time to let him back in our lives. He lets me know to let him know when I'm ready.

Ladies I know he wants to be there for his son but I feel I can't trust that anymore. Let alone forget how I've been treated. He's not the kind of example I want for my son anymore. He is still bragging about this other woman on social media without ever acknowledging me or my baby, even to his family. Not that social media should matter that much but never was I ever brought to light on his page. If you don't believe me check out his Instagram: @duclos. Not once do I ever appear, not even as the "friend" or "lover" or for the pictures that I took. I doubt he's told this new woman. And or his other son and baby mamma.

Soo basically my debate is whether to let him be there in the hospital. Let him use his last name on my baby. Be involved in the babies life. OR to never talk to him again and or tell him when I'm in labor and let my son have my last name while I enjoy my baby all to myself.

At this point I feel like I should be done believing anything anymore as the hurt and pain he's caused is way to much. But then there's that feeling of not denying a child there father.

Sorry for the long story. Please let me know what you think! ❤️🙏🏼