I need HELP!

Hi girls, this is my first post on eve so, I guess is going to be really LOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG!!! Lol

Okay, here I go, I met a guy online three years ago,(I got a note from him remembering that), let's say his name is J, so when I met J I had boyfriend and he knew it, anyway, we continued talking everyday and with the pass of the time, we fell in love and I left my boyfriend, it hurt, yes, but we were not working anymore (we were together for 6 years) he was just interested in other things, I was always in second place and that was frustrating because I used to give everything to him, everything, I also had fights with my parents for him, well, I was talking about the online guy, we were talking the whole time, making video calls, phone calls, messages, posts on Facebook, everything, he was on my world, and I was in his, well, we decided that we had to meet, and we were planning the days, oh I forgot to mention, I'm from Mx and he's from North Carolina, yeah, from different Countries 😞 so, it was a little weird because he doesn't speak Spanish at all, and well, I had to learn some expressions hahaha anyway, we started to planning our days together, but he just left me waiting, but we started to spending more time "together", somehow, to December he asked me to marry him, I was in complete shock, he started to do all things I was expecting from my ex, and well, I had to talk with my parents to explain what was going on, it was easy with my mom but no with my dad, even though I don't see my mom, they are separated and my mom decided to live in other state with her partner, I was living with my dad, and he was upset because I wanted to get married with J, and he started to talk with my ex about this and asked him to do everything he could to get me back, because he didn't want lose his little girl (I'm not a little GIRL!!!), the thing is that he got it and J and I broke up, he got into depression and was in the hospital for almost 6 months, I tried to fix the things but his family started to treat me like shit, specially his mom, she started to send me messages saying that it was all my fault, that he was better without me, at certain point she made me feel guilty and I spent almost three months on depression. One day, my best friend asked me to go with her to the wedding of another of our college friends (WEDDING!!! 😭) I was really sad but I did, and..... well I met a really nice guy there, he asked me to dance with him for the rest of the night, and well, yeah, I accepted ( Why not?! With my bad luck, probably, I would never see him again) and then we changed numbers and immediately he sent me a message asking me to let him know if I was in home, of course I did!!! So he started sending messages, of course not like J, but we were talking about our relationships and all that, we were going through the same, so I found a friend, suddenly he started to help me to heal, saying that I had to block and delete everything that hurt me, even the messages of J's family, and I did, I started to believe that I could heal, and I am better now, oh my friends name is Alan, we've been having dates but he's a crazy scientist 👨🏻‍🔬 hahaha and he doesn't have enough time for a relationship, and it's fine to me, actually I'm a Chef and I don't have time either but, after all this time.... I'm starting to fall in love with him, I just.... I'm scared because I don't want to get hurt again, and J still sending me emails with songs and saying how much he miss me and I just don't know if I have to answer him, PLEEEEEEEEEASE GIRLS, I NEED YOUR HELP!!!

Update!

It has to be today, I haven't checked my Facebook profile because of my job, I don't have time and just a few minutes ago, I had a message request, I checked it because I hate to see messages unread, and guess what? It was J's mother! Bothering me!!! I'm trying to be respectful and mature, don't answering but I can't allow this woman keeps bothering when I'm not even the couple of her son!!!