does anyone else have a hard time communicating? 😩😩😭

Question

i super suck at communicating. it’s like if someone does something to bother me, i have a hard time communicating to them that they’ve hurt me so my feelings always get put on the back burner and the other person gets their point across while i feel bad. if it’s a super tense conversation like confrontation, i can’t say how i feel and i don’t even know why for sure. it’s starting to get in the way of relationships that i care about. i think it stems from my mom not letting me talking about my feelings when i was younger, she wouldn’t let me say how i felt. i guess i’m asking is there anyone else who’s like this? or are there any ways that i can get better?

Answer

You just need to see what works best for you. it could be you need to take a step back, calm down and then come back and talk about it. it could be that you don't do well speaking verbally and you need to write your feelings/thoughts down in either a letter or text. Whoever you need to do this with just explain to them that this is what you need to do for you to be able to feel like you're heard. My boyfriend and I use text when it gets too hard to speak about certain feelings and the more we text, the more we are able to verbalize in the future because we start to recognize like "oh I can actually talk about this with you" we even do it when we are sitting right next to each other in the middle of heavier talks. these are only what I can think of. I hope these help and that it gets better for you

does anyone else have a hard time communicating? 😩😩😭

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