Relationship is fucked but how do I let go?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and a half years. He lies, he belittles everything I do, insults me, you name it. I'm an ugly girl so I take it because he is an attractive, successful man and I know I'll never get another, or maybe not even another man period. I'm scared to be alone forever. Now don't get me wrong, it's not like this is happening 24/7. Just whenever we are fighting and he is mad. Lately however it seems like this is ALL the time. I keep trying to talk to him to try to see if there is anything that can be done to fix this... I know that just ignoring these problems aren't going to fix them and for some reason he NEVER wants to talk about ANYTHING. I'm not that kind of person. I try my hardest to fix problems and I can't just sit around and ignore them. I don't know how to get him to care about our problems and try to fix them, he just doesn't seem to care. His solution is ignoring them and seeing if that "helps us get along if we're not trying to fight all the time".

I'm confused to the highest level of the meaning. I only have two options: I stay here and do what he says - I ignore our problems and sit around miserable or I move back to my moms and be miserable there. Either way, I am unhappy. There is no good option for me. And I am just torn and so sad...