What if this was your mom?
So I'm going to start by saying my mother and I don't have the best relationship. It's not all bad but due to MANY reasons in the past , I really rather just not deal with her.
BACKSTORY: my mom hasn't really had a decent man since my step father left her about six years ago. She dated this one guy and long story short , she put me out and told him to take me with him, he ended up raping me ... I was about 17. I feel like she blames me instead of herself or the man better yet but I have forgiven her and moved on from it . (She's an alcoholic)
Now I've been with my husband since I was in 8th grade... my mother has never liked him as she feels he stole me from her but she was a very manipulative and abusive parent and when I met him , he became my best friend and support system. When she realized he wasn't going anywhere after many attempts to run him off , she would just be wildly inappropriate with him. She would sit on his lap, she's completely undressed in front of him, and overall just touches him sexually. I'm currently staying with her and it's only supposed to be for one month until my husband secure our new home but it's becoming hard to co exist with her. She currently has a new bf and I pretty much stay to myself due to the situation with her last bf and considering her new bf told me she has said some questionable things about me to him . (May I add my mom likes to tell my personal business to men I don't know. She will comment about how my nips are hard , or ask am I wearing panties or just like last night she told her male friend I suck dick." I feel like she opens doors for men to be predatory to me and being I've been sexually abused, it makes me highly uncomfortable and I've told her but nothing has changed) Anyways , she's always calling my husband to do little favors for her, he's even stated he doesn't like the way she touches him and this morning she woke him up demanding he cook her breakfast when her bf was in the next room😒. She's always trying to pull him to the side when I'm not around to talk to him or tries to make him disagree and go against me to be on her side. (She's very controlling) She walks around my husband half naked and although I know he's not interested in her , it's about respect. Today she came into the room I currently sleep in and was in her panties and bra!!! 😠 I'm like "Wtf, go cover up!" I know if I was to walk around her bf like that she would have a fit so why does she do that to my husband ? I feel like she wants him to want her .... I'm venting but I'm also curious if her behavior is something I should be concerned about ? My personal opinion is that she wants my husband and she acts like he's "our" man instead of just mine! I will be leaving her home just before my baby arrives just bc I know her behavior isn't normal but does anyone else think she acts really weird around my husband?
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