MIL Issues

Kayla

Hey ladies! This may seem like a rant but I really need your advice.

I have been with my fiance for 7 years and his mother and I have a really good relationship. We go shopping, get our nails done, all of that jazz. But since we moved out of her house and into our own about a year and a half ago, she wants us to spend every weekend with her. Normally its not an issue to meet for dinner or go catch a movie every other weekend with his family, but this weekend really irritated me.

We went out to dinner with them on Friday night and she called me Saturday night while I was out with my sister who I dont see very often to ask if we wanted to go to the cider mill on Sunday. I told her I would think about it because I knew that I was going to wake up with a hangover and my fiance and I had to do some work around the house. She texted him and I Sunday morning saying that they are going to the cider mill at one and they would see us there. I texted her back and told her that we were not going to make it because we had other things that we had to take care of and we were going to spend time at home together. She replied saying I figured, you never want to do things with us.

I am completly dumb-founded by this statement because we ALWAYS do things with his family. Basically every weekend that she doesn't have other plans, we HAVE to do something with her. I feel like she is the source of some of our relationship problems because it seems like I never get to spend time with my guy without her and dad there, so its like I'm not spending time with him even then. Since he works an hour away, the only time I get to see him is for a half an hour while we eat and then he goes straight to bed. I have no idea how to bring this up to my guy or his mom, or deal with her wanting to do something all the time. Any advice would help! And I apologize for the long rant!