So I’m 20 years old, a junior in college with my own apartment, and have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. Over the summer and this semester my dad’s family (my parents are divorced) have given me the silent treatment and barely talked to me.

I just talked to my dad and he said that he felt that since I started dating my boyfriend I pulled away from their family big time. I don’t understand because this separation only started over the summer because I worked crazy long hours saving up for school. (Which they don’t help pay for anything, and I don’t care but don’t get mad when I’m paying for everything myself)

They basically blame everything on my boyfriend. I really try to split my time between them and my moms family but its so hard to please everyone while still making myself happy.

My dads family NEVER tries to call me, let me know about family events, or invite me to anything. My dad took our entire family (4 siblings, stepmom and himself) to a country concert for my sister’s birthday (which was only a week after mine) and didn’t invite me or anything. He also sent me selfies and videos of the concert basically bragging that they were there and I wasn’t.

I just don’t know what to say or how to handle the situation when they make me feel SO guilty about doing anything for myself. Please help.