MIL Drama rant

Ok so I had my baby shower last week! My cousin and her friend through and hosted the shower and I was to know nothing of it other than the colors I choose.

So this is how it went.

I get there and all the guest are seated in rows people could pick who and where they wanted to sit so my MIL chose an end table with her daughters and some of my friends. The hosts put me at my own table and had my mom share it with me I guess so I wasn’t sitting up there by myself, I was grateful as that was like the only comfy chair to sit in but i admit it was odd as I wasn’t sitting with anyone really other than Mom.

So I did some mingling, hugged and said hi to everyone including my MIL but as the shower began I sat up back up front where they wanted me! I noticed my MIL crying so I checked on her and asked her if she needed anything and she didn’t so we continued on.

We ate then the girl hosting the party stood next to me, which was good so as we played games I was up there and I answered question she asked about me and everyone who had the most questions right got a prize!

Then they moved my chair and I sat with a friend who wrote down names and gifts as I opened everything. It was a long shower I even needed a break between opening gifts but I was trying to be respectful to everyone that got me something so they knew how grateful I was. After that we had a photo booth set up and everyone took pics together.

So that’s It’s I overheard my MIL tell my mom how she wanted to tell her how nice everything was and my mom told her that she was glad they came and how she was excited because the next big event would be the baby coming and that was it they parted ways.

I get a call today from my mom who said my husbands aunt visited her at her store demanding a gift that was left up there that she was suppose to bring to the shower my mom is not confrontational and said they she had already given me the gift this women said that my husband had called her and told her that my mom didn’t bring this gift and she wanted it. My mom again said no they have she did forget it the first day at work but brought it home the next time she went to work and we have it so she left.

I ask my husband did he call her and he’s like no I don’t even have her #. So he said let me call me Mom as it turns out his mother knew about this gift and told his aunt that we didn’t get it and I guess more as this women was so rude to my mother.

So here I am 38 Hott because no one will disrespect my mother and we’ve had issues in the past so I knew it was my MIL being manipulative. My husband calls her asking why she’s stirring up stuff and She tells my husband that my mother treated her like crap at the shower and was incredibly rude, that she will not be in another room with my mother, shes mad as she wasn’t introduced in the shower as the baby’s nana and no one knew who she was and some how its All my mothers fault.

I’m like really my mom didn’t through the shower and doesn’t have a mean bone in her body. Also the shower isn’t all about her its about me and celebrating this baby my mother wasn’t mentioned in the shower either just myself my husband and the baby she starts crying and acting as if she’s the victim and my mind is just blown. She trying to poison my husband again my mom which he knows is BS he know my moms character but of course it has everyone upset mostly me because I can help but feel like this is going to be how it is for every event in the future like every time I through a party Is there going to be a fight about how it’s Not enough about her.

I just don’t know what to do here but it’s pushing me away I feel like she has a problem with me but is deflecting it on my mom because if she said this stuff to my husband about me he wouldn’t hear. I’m 2 seconds from chewing her out unlike my mother I can be a manipulative B also and I’m not trying to let her ruin everything. This shower was so special as this is my 3rd pregnancy and the first time I’ve made it this far in a pregnancy. I wish she could let things go but she’s always starting something else she hates that we are together and this crap has been going on for years but my husband loves his family so I just don’t know what to do here 😩