Sexual acts doesn’t feel as good?

So I don’t really know what’s wrong with me. When I finger myself, it just feels like fingers going in and out. It’s the same when I use my vibrator for penetration. Is it because I’m not in the mood or something? I’m still a virgin. When I use my vibrator on my clit, I’ll eventually work my way up from there. I’m dating now and I don’t want to seem “emotionless” when we try to fool around.