I keep seeing posts about girls finding out they are the “other woman” and contemplate whether or not they should tell the guy’s SO.

I’m here to tell you that you should.

I didn’t and I regret it every day 🤭

So, let’s start.

Rewind to 4 years ago.

I was 24 and enjoying being single and partying.

My best friend and I go to a friend’s New Year’s <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> party. There were only about 10 people there but we start taking shots then switched to champagne pong.

(Yes, it hurts as bad as you think it would the next day 🤕)

A few more friends show up a little later. Enter “J”.

J was one of the hottest guys in our high school. We always flirted but his female best friend hated me, so nothing ever came of it. I hadn’t seen him since HS because he joined the army and left town. (This situation takes place 6 years after HS. I had no contact with him and no clue what was going on in his life since he didn’t have social media.)

J and I talked for a few hours and with no shame, we went into the bathroom and had sex.

(If you think you can slut shame me, don’t waste your time. I love sex and I’m not ashamed. At all. 🤗)

But.

IT. WAS. AWFUL.

I was white girl wasted, the room was spinning at warp speed, I couldn’t tell if he was in me or not and he stopped after 2 minutes. Totally not worth it.

We all end up leaving and I don’t talk to him again.

Fast forward to two years ago.

I was on Facebook and came across a girl I used to go to middle school with. We lost touch but we were pretty close, so I friended her.

That’s when I saw that she and J were married and expecting a baby. She also had a daughter from a previous relationship that he adopted as his own. I thought, how did these two end up together? Well, I shouldn’t have snooped 🙈

(It was honestly out of curiosity, as I was married to someone else and hadn’t even thought about him since that night.)

I found out that they were living together, engaged and expecting a baby (but she had a miscarriage) back when he and I had hooked up that night.

I was devastated for her, pissed at him and disgusted with myself for not making sure he was single. (In all honesty, I don’t remember if I asked him because I was drunk. Not the best excuse, I know but it’s the truth and it was four years ago.)

To his day, I still feel incredibly horrible for not telling her or confronting him. They are married with two kids, living in another state and they look happy but I’m carrying this secret that totally sucks. I wish I had told her but two years had passed and I couldn’t bring myself to do it.

So basically that was a long story just to tell you that if you find out the guy you slept with has a GF, Fiancée, wife, or any kind of SO, you should tell them.

Do it for you, for him, for the girl, for everyone involved. Trust me.