What is the most important to your self esteem?

Out of these, what affects your self-esteem the most? For example, would gaining a lot of weight (or losing it) be a big blow to your ego? What about getting turned down for a job or not succeeding at a job? Is it whether or not you find a husband or wife in your lifetime? Whether you get that masters degree? Whether or not you have a lot of friends?

For me, personally, it is my job. I feel like if I'm not making a lot of money, I'm not "succeeding" which hurts my self esteem. Or, if I'm not doing something highly productive in society. What about you?