So it all started with a phone . A phone line given to her mother to help with her bills and not having to pay a mortgage in payments. SIL fails to pay their phone bill , causing all lines to be shut off 3 months in a ROW, so I tell the MIL to give her back the phone and I’ll add her to our plan. We have less phones since we have no kids . Easy solution

Now my MIL isn’t tech savvy. So she takes a while getting the phone misc stuff transferred to the new one I bought her . Well my SIL get pissy because “she’s paying for a phone she can’t even use “. Granted her son was away at boot camp, but instead of telling recruiter “hey, my son is enlisted for training but our emergency contact has changed . Please change it to this ..” she starts a big cry .

SO my MIL met her up for dinner and hands over the phone . I thought it was DONE over with we can all go on living..

No my MIL didn’t think the SWIPE THE PHONE CLEAN to factory mode.

My SIL, instead of seeing the settings hadn’t been reset and resetting it like a patient child, Snooped through ALL of MIL fb, texts , EVERYTHING.

Well home girl found out my growing opinion of her over the past 3 months . She got really crazily possessive when her son left for boot. Understandable and it wasn’t BAD enough for me to be like whoa dude you’re nuts and creating a shitty atmosphere.

It caused an explosion of a fight between the three of us . Now before I get the judgment for not understanding what a military Mom goes through, I did apologize for misinterpreting her emotions and taking them wrong.

ALL the men in the family are literally walking on eggshells and cuddling her tightly for literally looking for dirt yet they all complain about the same things when it comes to her .

Now even in December I get shit for having a “fucked up attitude” . When in reality I’m over her issue about being insulted and that’s squashed , done. The real issue I have is that she INVADED my privacy so I honestly don’t even feel I can trust to tell her anything , especially when the fight ensued she used my venting topics as ammunition in her fight with her mother to cause an issue between her and I. SIL doesn’t get it, and what’s worse it every two-3 weeks she brings it up again mostly when she’s drinking 🙄 this woman is always thirsty and always in financial straits

And NO one else will say a thing to her. She won’t dare approach me directly and finish it but enjoys the drama of it all. I’d rather let it die but keep aware she’s just not an overall trust worthy person...

She’s the only girl of 4 and the oldest so the men put her on a pedestal . I’m really tired of playing nicely since I’m not allowed to stay away and my husband can’t understand that her and I don’t Have to get along so long as we respectfully avoid each other at gatherings .... I really don’t want to have to see them Christmas Day . I’d rather stay home or just sit with my parents 🙄

rant over I needed this. I swear this atmosphere was tense before the phone fiasco, but that’s another story lol