When your married and still had feelings for your ex 😔

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So I’ve been married since May and my husband and my family want us to start trying to have a baby but I still have feelings for my ex who I was pregnant by and had an abortion because of how much my family hated that I was pregnant by him and everyday I regret it 😭 i don’t know how to tell my husband I would love to have a child but not with him😔 he’s an amazing man and a wonderful dad to my daughter... I can’t find it in myself on how to tell him how I feel about it since I regret the decision I made with my ex and acted upon my families input and didn’t think about how it would affect me in the future...Advice please ☹️

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Your poor husband... hope you tell him soon so he can move on

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Sounds like you shouldnt have gotten married...

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isn’t the discussion of wanting/not wanting children something you should have BEFORE marriage?

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Why the fuck would you marry someone when you’re not over your ex. Poor husband.

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thatd be a question way before marriage...  sort of feel sorry for him. you married him KNOWING you had feelings for him and wanted anothee baby with you ex and not yout husband.. so completely wrong on your end.

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So you basically want to leave your husband?

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This should have been discussed before marriage. You need to sit down and have a conversation with him.

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It’s a really hard lesson to learn to not follow everyone else’s advice. They are not you, they don’t live w that person each day and they are not responsible for your happiness. 
That being said- I have been in your situation before, although I was only engaged, I didn’t get married. I couldn’t when all I wanted was my ex. Weather my ex wanted me or not didn’t matter, I couldn’t go through w a marriage feeling like that and so out of place and less than happy. Even tho the man I was engaged to was wonderful. 
The longer you wait to speak your true feelings the more it will eat at you and cause stress and emotion. You’re going to hurt people no matter what. Don’t bring another child into this and tell your husband how you feel. For me, leaving was the right thing.

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Have you had any counselling over all of this? Maybe you don't actually want a different baby with your ex, you want to undo what happened and have your baby back. You need to figure it all out with someone who can help you, then whatever you feel afterwards needs to be discussed with your husband. Tell him now about your past and that you want some help with that before you think about trying for a baby. You're in this position now, something needs to be done. If you don't want to try counselling and you're set on your ex, then you need to talk through it with your husband and end the marriage. I'd advise counselling first though, things aren't always the way we feel they are, and it never hurts to ask for professional advice

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Wow.

When your married and still had feelings for your ex 😔

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