So I’m currently engaged, getting married in September. My best friend is also engaged, getting married in June. I’m one of her bridesmaids.

Her maid of honor is of course planning her bachelorette party, she asked me for help and ideas because she’s not one that goes out. She works her butt off and takes care of her kids.

The bride wanted to go to Vegas for her party but ruled it out because more than half her bridal party can not afford to go to Vegas myself included. (I’m trying to plan a wedding and all my extra money goes towards our wedding)

The MOH and I were bouncing ideas back and forth. Last night the bride messaged me and asks if I’ll be upset if she has two bachelorette parties. I replied asking her why she needs to have two parties. She responded that she still really wants to go to Vegas and that I can’t go and her sister can’t go but one of the other girls who originally complained several times that she didn’t have money to go to Vegas can now “swing it”.

I was upset, we went to Vegas together on a girls trip last year and we didn’t have a lot of fun.

I told her it would bother me, just trying to be honest with her, but I told her if she wants to go then she should but that I didn’t think she needs to throw a second party.

Am I being mean? I’m not trying to be selfish but my fiancé and I figured it up. She would be having a bachelorette party in Vegas for 3 out of the 8 in her bridal party.

What would you do in this situation?