What would you ladies do? Long story...

Currently my SO and I are living at his mother’s house. I love her so much! She treats me like a daughter. She fully supports our relationship and is truly a wonderful future MIL. I moved in with them about 10 months ago. I got a new full time job closer to them, and she instantly offered for me to move in. She suggested I transfer to a college near their house and finish up my degree while I work. She said neither of us would have to pay rent as long as we’re working, saving money, and going to school/my boyfriend continuing his army career. I asked “are you sure??” at least a million times! I’m really thankful she offered. So I moved in! And without even being asked, I’ve ALWAYS done chores around the house in return. I clean the bathrooms, the kitchen, pick up things in the living room, vacuum, cook meals, etc. Basically anything that I can help out with. And she appreciates it!

However, this woman has got to be the most annoying person to live with 😂 I’m not trying to be mean! Trust me I’m so appreciative of what she’s done for me. She bartends and comes home most nights around 1-3 A.M. But she doesn’t come in quietly, she stomps in. She sounds like she’s wearing weights for shoes! And then she slams things around in the kitchen, plays the TV at full volume, plays with her dog and gets it barking, plays music, etc. And before you say “it’s her house, she can do what she wants”, I’m fully aware! Which is why I don’t say anything and I bite my tongue. My SO will occasionally ask her politely if she can try and remember we’re sleeping and we both have to get up very early every morning. And she doesn’t get annoyed or anything she just agrees but never changes anything. BUT NOW it’s getting sooo much worse. She’s now entering our bedroom without even knocking. Sometimes I’m changing and she’ll just open the door! She’ll see me half dressed and go “oops sorry” and then half shut the door and talk me to from the hallway. Or she’ll just walk in the room in the middle of the night just to say hi. She’s walked in on us having sex a handful of times now. We can hear her coming towards the door so we have enough time to cover ourselves with a blanket and stop. But she’ll just whip open the door and start talking away. My boyfriend has politely talked about this with her too, and she just ignores it. My SO and I also some alcohol in our bedroom, we keep it in there because his younger brother (20) will drink it all if we leave it in the kitchen. I usually just have 2 bottles of wine and a handle of vodka, and my SO usually has a bottle of whisky and some captains laying around. We like to have a drink with dinner lol. Anyways! When we’re not home, she comes in our bedroom and takes the booze. I get I don’t pay rent, if she asked I totally would, but we had an agreement. But that does not mean she can just take my belongings, right?? It’s just alcohol...but at least ask before taking?

NOW, I recently found out I’m pregnant. No it was not 100% planned, but it wasn’t 100% prevented either. Between the two of us, we are financially stable and could afford a place of our own. And my SO has great insurance through the military, and I have benefits from work. My future MIL is so excited for us and to become a grandmother. She assumed we would live with her still and raise our baby there. However, my dad is now selling his condo back home (almost 2 hours away) and when we told him the news, he offered to sell it to us before putting it on the market. We would be by ourselves without any annoyance! When we told my future MIL about our moving situation, she was very upset. Understandable. This is my first pregnancy and I would also love to have her around. And I know she’d be very helpful. And it would be so nice for my baby to live with a grandparent. Especially since I had such a close relationship with my grandmother. But I truly cannot stand living there. Is she going to come home 1-3 A.M. blasting music and getting the dog to play and bark while I’m trying to get rest or eventually wake the baby up? Am I going to be 8 months pregnant with her just barging into the bedroom when I just want my privacy? I feel like it’s best for us to move out and be on our own. But my hometown is not where I want to raise my baby. And I would like to have some sort of family around to help me with being a FTM and having tons of questions. But I also don’t want to go through the process of finding somewhere to live around here while I’m working and going to school while I can. Should I move back home and be on our own or stay here?? What if I get settled here and it turns out to be awful when the baby is all settled in and the nursery is set up. I can’t just uproot my life if it turns out it isn’t working.