Is there something wrong with me?

Question

I’m 16 and my boyfriend and I have been experimenting with sexual activities lately. A couple days ago we decided to have sex, and it hurt, but I knew that was normal, so I ignored it. But the more we have sex, I’m realizing that it’s either painful, or I don’t feel anything at all. Well obviously I feel him inside me, what I mean is I don’t feel any pleasure, I feel like I don’t get anything out of it. Is this normal? Should I be feeling things? I haven’t told him about this. He’d ask me if I had a good time and I don’t want to make him feel bad so I lie and say I did. What do I do?

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Make him get you wet before you have sex. If you’re not wet it’s just gonna burn/hurt.

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Lots of foreplay is key! Most of the time, 69 isn’t enough to completely lube me up naturally. Have you gotten your nipples sucked? That is my main turn on, that and getting my neck and back bitten/licked. If it still hurts during sex, let him know. Tell him to slow down, not too deep, or switch positions. I have 3 kids, and the first few times after birth, always feels uncomfortable and painful. And if you’re not feeling it (having sex), Just tell him. Let him know you’re it hurts and maybe y’all should try again later. He shouldn’t get mad, and if he does.... then that should tell you a lot

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I honestly didn’t feel any pleasure at all until I had sex with someone I love. I still don’t orgasm during sex but it does feel good.

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This is my "normal". I know most women feel pleasure but I do not. It is a dead zone most of the time, except for when I feel pain. 
A few things to help would be plenty of foreplay to make sure you are properly ready. That will help with the pain. Guys tend to be a little faster than us and ready to go. But making sure you are properly lubed, naturally or otherwise, will help. A pillow (or 3) under my hips also helps with the pain. Some positions are way better than others. There are positions we have tried and I feel shooting pains so we do not revisit those and move on. And tell him if you need him to go slower or not as deep. Sometimes I get hit too deep and it makes me sick to my stomach. It's an accident and it happens but telling him what I need helps.
It probably feels counterintuitive but don't lie to him. I have always been honest with my husband about when I feel pain and when I am getting nothing out of it. It helps because we can then change things and try to fix it. He is the only partner I have ever had and we were adults when we got together so that may make a difference but seriously, just tell him. Be safe and good luck!

Is there something wrong with me?

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