Anyone have good resources (links, books, or even their own advice idk) for someone who is struggling to feel in control of my own sexuality after having so many toxic sexual experiences (mostly issues of sexual coercion and unequal sexual dynamics I.e being expected to care for my partners pleasure but not having that same care reciprocated). I'm with a partner who I really love right now and treats me really well but I can't shake the guilt, shame, and negativity I've internalized from previous negative experiences. It's putting a big damper on our sexual relationship to the point where I hardly ever feel comfortable engaging sexually with him. Any help???