Am not sure if am posting in the right groupbut i just need to vent!!

Ok so i have an almost 3 year old (am not eith her dad since she was 3 months old i am currently living with my boyfriend and her dad is a deadbeat hes so immature he has never showed up to any of her birthday parties (but has celebarated with her once) i also invited her dad to her babtism but he chose not to show up because he didnt agree with who the godparents were (he told me since the beginning he didnt want anything to do with the babtism planning) so this year he is planning on throwing a party for her and got together with my family to throw the party (hes renting a room at my sisters house) well since the beginning nobody took my opinion in consideration nor tried to invite me but last week one of my friends asked infront of my sister if i was going to my daughters party to witch i answered no.. its not that i dont want to be there but her dad finds any excuse to yell at me and start name calling well since my family doesnt like my boyfried nor did they like my daughters dad when he was with me anyway now everybody is attacking me saying i dont care for my daughte needless to say i have my daughter for her actual birthday and we are taking her to chukie cheeses to celebrate now my so and i talked because my family got to me with their side comments and i will be showing up for my daughter but i havent told anybody so am still hearing all this crap about how horrible of a mom i am and how the dad is great and blah blah blah am i in the wrong for feeling like my family takes my daughtes side??