Ok so long story shortened....

My husband just moved us for a job at the beginning of January. I'm 38+3 and my new ob has been rather laise faire and I'm starting to get nervous.

They haven't done a UA yet and I've had UTI's, and haven't checked my H&H; and I've been anemic, and this last time they had a trainee take my BP and she literally didn't know how to hold the BP cuff. I should have asked her trainer to take it independently, but I didn't and now I regret it. They've been watching my BP because I've been induced for high BP before in a previous pregnancy, and it was trending up, but it felt like this person just guessed because the top number dropped and the bottom number was exactly the same and it didn't match up with what I saw on the cuff. I've also got headaches and irritability today with some ear ringing, and my hands are so swollen they hurt and I can't get my wedding ring off.

I asked my husband if it's worth going and buying a new cuff and checking myself (mine got packed), but he said I'm being neurotic and I should just wait for my next appointment. Idk if it's just me being super hormonal, but I had to literally bite my tongue to not scream at him before hanging up.

So am I being neurotic? I'm worried about going into labor without accurate records available at this new doctor and hospital. Also, I'm concerned that my husband is not going to be a great birth advocate if he's dismissing my concerns out of hand like this. I almost want to get a doula at the last minute, or at least call my mother in from out of state to make sure we are ok.