My bf and I have been dating a year, we’re in a (very) long distance relationship. He was a virgin before and I know he cares about me because he always orders me food and takes care of me when I’m sick and is emotionally supportive of my mental health issues, but he always assumes I’m going to pleasure myself during sex. He goes right for the vibrator and tries for maybe a couple min then has me do it and rushes foreplay and doesn’t go down on me! He says he doesn’t want to while I’m bleeding (I spot for months at a time because of the implant) but I always shower and I feel really neglected. What do I do? What if I talk to him about it and he feels forced?

Totally off topic but I’m also concerned about his video game addiction. He’s gotten better but at times he’s prioritized that over me and I had a huge talk to him about it. He said he’d change it but I’m moving in with him and I’m SCARED. He did agree to couples counseling upon moving in, however.

I feel like I’m making this sound worse than he is because he says he does want to make sure that I feel good, but I’m worried it’s going to be empty promises and then I’ll move out of state with him