Csection vs vback

So I am scheduled for a c-section with my second baby this Saturday February 3rd. And now having second thoughts...

My daughter was 4 days late last pregnancy. I was in labor for 32 hours in the hospital. I finally became fully dilated at 30 hours when the doctor told me she was face up. So told me I could try pushing but that there was a chance she may not come out or go into a bad position. Pushed for 2 hours to then have an emergency c-section!

Now 39 weeks pregnant with our baby boy! A friend who is an RN had told me after that she heard horror stories and not to have a vback with the next one. My sister who is an ultrasound tech at a perinatologist office said they won’t even do vbacks at her office. So when I got pregnant I had told my doctor I was just going to have another c-section. They said the second time isn’t as bad and that obviously it was up to me. Also thought maybe keep my lady parts in their original shape since I already have the csection scar!

I’ve had to see a different doctor almost every appointment since there are so many in my practice and none of them has pushed me to try a vback. Then a couple of weeks ago, after I was already scheduled, the new female doctor at the practice said “has anyone from this office actually talked and educated you about the options” which honestly no... I has already decided. So I then learned that the risk of uterine rupture is lower than the risk is csection complication. I had no idea! And ever since hen I’ve gone back and forth.

My husband says he is supportive of whatever decision I make of course. So he won’t give an opinion. Everyone keeps saying “it’s up to you”.. yeah I know but I don’t know what to do!

I had always felt that I had most of the labor experience and was all set. But now weirdly wanting to go through it again. And worried that electing for csection May be a regret!

Has anyone had a second csection and regretted it or wish you had tried for the vback? Or has anyone had a vback and regretted it?

And the TMI question that I really want to know... is sex terrible after having a vaginal birth? I’ve read and heard that it can be really uncomfortable for a long time! I tend to be sore for days every time me and hubby get busy that I’m so scared after a vaginal birth I’ll never heal!

The choices.... the choices...