People calling me huge making me anxious...anyone else have this issue?

So my second daughter was over 8 pounds at birth. It was very traumatic for me. I ripped both ways and they made my husband leave because they couldn’t control bleeding afterward when I had begged them not to let me proceed with naturally with a baby that big (they knew she would be big) when I am 4’11 and 98 pounds naturally. My first daughter was 7’12 and I still tore quite badly and my third daughter was 7’8, and I had zero complications.

I’m on my fourth and final baby, and all anyone can talk about is how huge I am. A nurse at the er I took my oldest daughter to when she was sick questioned my due date because she said I was “enormous for only 23 weeks”. I am panicking now that I will have another very large baby. My obgyn hasn’t said anything, but she has also not communicated well with me this entire pregnancy and every time I’ve been told the baby’s weight, it has been 2-4 oz over what it should be. I’m completely panicking that she will be big and I’ll be stuck with another doctor that won’t hear me out about how I cannot easily or naturally birth a large baby...what should I do? Or say? I’ve been counting calories and trying to eat healthy. But I’ve still gained weight faster this pregnancy than any other pregnancy before it. A few weeks ago I weighed 110.4 pounds giving me a total of 7-8 pounds of gained weight by 20 weeks since I started this specific pregnancy at a little over 102 pounds. I’m starting to feel super guilty when I give in to cravings, and every time I start to feel like I’m just overreacting, someone calls me enormous again.

Has anyone else experienced this? What do you do?

Edit: My daughter that was over 8 pounds ripped me two different ways in a way where they had trouble getting the stitches to stay and caused other intense bleeding that kept me in the hospital for a little over half a week. It just makes me worried to do another 8+ pound baby. I know my size doesn’t dictate my pelvic floor, but I’m saying I’m very small and it just doesn’t work.

I’m also not saying she was unnaturally large. Just very large for me. But more so that people telling me I’m absolutely enormous every single day of my life is making me feel nervous.