I just found out that I’m pregnant and I’m still fairly early. (Only 3 weeks!) So I definitely want to wait to announce to my father that I’m pregnant to make sure it’s a healthy pregnancy... BUT I have no idea how I’m going to do that come time.

A short little background on my father, he’s old fashioned, sort of. He doesn’t necessarily not want grandkids, but he doesn’t want them if me or my sisters aren’t financially ready. He calls it “financial suicide”.

He believes I should do it the right way, “graduate college, find a career, then get married and have kids”. He believes that if it’s done in any other order, it’s wrong- financially. He’s got a point but unfortunately that’s not my situation.

My boyfriend and I aren’t married, and we have jobs but they’re probably not the greatest. Right now we’re doing decent in an apartment and spend our money pretty responsibly, but we don’t have anything saved. Neither of us have a college degree, which is actually something we were both planning on doing this fall.. but now that’s probably going to change.

I’m mostly worried that when I tell him, he’ll be so mad and want nothing to do with the baby. Him and my mother were younger (I’m 24) and even worse financially when they had me and my sisters, and we came out just fine. I get that he doesn’t want me to make the same mistakes, but I’m scared to tell him.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did it work out? Any advise you can give to me for telling him without stressing out so much? I really want him to be involved in my baby’s life. I’m sure the moment he lays eyes on him/her he’ll fall in love. But I need his support throughout the pregnancy, emotionally that is.

I know I’m rambling, thanks for reading. 😊