should i leave a man who's bad for my mental health?

Question

ok i am not officially diagnosed but i had a crappy childhood. my dad drank and did other drugs (tobacco and pot) all the time. he was at his worst when he was drunk though so i have some shitty memories of him drinking and being drunk. i have told my husband how drinking makes me feel, how everytime he drinks i have horrible flashbacks to my father drinking. yet he continues to drink or ask me if he can drink. i think it's to the point where he resent me because of how his drinking makes me feel.  maybe it's just me but i feel like he doesn't care about how i feel. what do you think ladies?

Answer

so he can't drink at all or he can't over do it? at some point it should be a compromise. like its understandable that you have those feelings due to bad experiences but you would be punishing him for something he had nothing to do with. if he doesn't get like your father then don't treat him as such. I would probably resent you too because of that. you should deal with the issues with your father and those experiences instead of avoidance and having other people change their behavior (unless of course it does get out of control in some way) because of your past.

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Marijuana isn't a bad "drug" or whatever just saying. But if you feel your bf isn't healthy for you then leave don't waste your time on someone that'll hurt you.

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the thing is is i am trying to get help for my flashbacks. i am seeing my therapist and i am thinking about going to see a psychiatrist to get an official diagnosis and see if i can maybe get on medication. i have told him this and he knows that he has to say sober to help me help myself get better. its not that i mind him having a few beers here and there its just once he starts drinking he can't stop and it ends up spiraling out of control to the point where if i don't get on his ass about it i come home from a long day at work to find him passed on the hallway floor. i don't like asking him not to drink but at this point i don't have a choice.

should i leave a man who's bad for my mental health?

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