Are u #1 priority for your husband?

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So I was talking to my husband about a couple things I wish he wouldn’t do and wish bed put a bit more effort into our relationship. So he tells me I need to stop being selfish and always thinking about my self and to be a better mother to our kids and put them as #1 priority cuz they are to him. And then he tells me I come second... idk maybe I am being childish and selfish like be said but that made me super sad and just feel like crying 😢 he is a super good father but I feel like I just get left out 😒
If your a family with kids, does your husband put you first or your kids?
***editing to add that of course we both love our kids and would do anything for them and they are well cared for! But when I see him loving our kids, playing with them, cuddling them and then when it’s my turn he’s to tired, or he used up all his energy on the kids and other excuses it’s hurtful. He will show affection here and there but usually after I have breakdown. We haven’t ever gotten even one day or even a couple hours alone since our oldest which was 4 years ago. He decided he wanted to do everything with our kids but as a wife, I would love that alone time and feel like it would help us reconnect***

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Kids are gana grow up and get married, and you guys won’t be there 1st priority it will be there families 1st, kids will leave and get married but you will always be there with him. You should be 1st ALWAYS!!!

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ideally, spouse/children should come first TOGETHER and not apart.
however, prioritizing your marriage over your children is much healthier in the long run. one day your kids will grow up and move out and if you haven’t been spending quality time with your spouse like in the good old days you’ll realize the person you’ve married is now a stranger. prioritizing your marriage gives your kids an example of a healthy relationship and a peaceful household.

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It depends on the situation but in general.. Yes, my kids come first. but with that said, you have to invest in your spouse as well or you'll wake up in 20 years and have nothing in common anymore. To have a happy home and happy children, you have to first have a happy marriage/relationship.

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I think that our marriage is important and for us to be in a happy healthy relationship.  If we’re unhappy with each other all the time then that’s not necessarily putting the kids first anyway because they’d feel that tension and be unhappy too.  So we put our relationship first for our family’s sake.

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Kid will always come first.

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I’m not in a competition with my child and I think it’s silly to have the mentality that one of us has to come “first” 🙄 
He loves us both. His heart is big enough we both come first in his life. There is no me vs her; that’s toxic bullshit. 
Our family— as a unit— comes first before anyone else in the world. That’s it.

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I think he should put you first, you were here before the kids and going to be there when the kids are gone and out of the house.

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We prioritize our family. We don’t choose favorites. We make decisions based on what will benefit the entire family in the long run. It’s our legal and moral responsibility to care for our children so we of course prioritize feeding and clothing them. Questions like this are very situational to me.

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highly suggest reading yourself & sharing this with him. 
https://www.babble.com/relationships/the-case-for-putting-my-wife-before-my-children/

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Kids will always come first however, that doesn’t mean you forget about loving and showing affection towards your spouse. My husband is a great father he takes the time to play with and care for our daughter she is truly daddy’s girl however, he still manages to set up date nights or night time for us to cuddle once she’s in bed. It’s important to draw the line in these circumstances. My mother always said love your kids but don’t forget you have a husband too and he needs as much love and affection. I find that to be true for husband and wife. Try setting up date nights or cuddle nights once the kids are in bed. Good luck🤞🏼

Are u #1 priority for your husband?

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