It really bothers me.
I don’t want to sound petty, or mean or like I’m some heartless bitch. But at the same time I don’t care. But I do care. I absolutely can not stand when people compare their first and early second trimester losses to my loss. I lost my daughter at 25 weeks. She grew. My body changed. I felt her move and kick. She has a name. She was a person. When I went back to work everyone started coming to me telling me “I know how you feel.” No. No you do not. I had two previous losses. One at 9 and another at 13 weeks. So I do understand what that feels like. I know it FUCKING sucks. Everyone handles loss differently. But don’t sit there and try to compare your loss to mine. I am not a heartless bitch. I know people have feelings. And I know that all forms of loss make you feel broken. I guess I just needed to vent.