When help really isn't help

I have someone very close to me who's a klutz in life, a hot mess if you will. lol I love this person dearly as I am their blood but I need to vent because I'm going INSANE. She offers help, which I gladly need since I have a 6 year old son and a crankyyyyyy 7 month old. And by cranky I mean she wants to be held all. the. time. I can't even wash two dishes before she starts having a meltdown- never mind trying to prep and make dinner (eating the dinner is a whole other feat) OR when you finally put the baby down for a nap and they're just falling asleep, your 6 year old storms in and says he needs to shit and needs help wiping his butt😫🙄 its total chaos in my house 90% of the time. anyway, Going back to this close person. Her help comes from her heart..but with the help comes more work for me. Example- before she comes into our apartment I ask her to call me because we have a dog who barks constantly and the time she comes is the time the baby goes for a nap. She won't call and she'll stand in from of the door and will knock until someone opens it (even tho she has keys she'll never take them out of her bag) and the baby always ends up waking up and gets hysterical. You moms know what anger You feel when someone wakes up a baby who JUST WENT DOWN FOR A NAP. or if she sleeps over (on the days she helps out longer) and wants to shower- she'll leave the shower curtain partially open letting water out onto the floor. Theres also a bath mat for the feet hanging over the tub which she'll never remove and it always get soaking wet. Or Shell leave the shower head pointing towards the floor so the next person turning on the shower gets a nice wet surprise by getting soaked all over. The time she wants to walk our dog she'll leave the leash on the floor right when you walk in instead of putting it back into its place. And The times she does walk the dog he never manages to shit so he leaves us a nice surprise in the morning (8/10 times). Or when she offers to take out the garbage she'll never replace the old trash bag leaving the next person to do it. Same thing goes with toilet paper even tho the new TP is right. There..ugh !!! Does anyone else have people like this in their lives? Or am I just being an ungrateful person? Most of the times I don't say anything but inside I'm going mad.

Edit-just to prove a point, I walk into the bathroom after posting this and look what I find: toilet paper roll ended and her wet bra and panties by the radiator....