Don’t let the world tell you how you should look

I was watching fitness videos on YouTube and this picture popped up for a suggested video for me to watch. I’ll be honest, when I saw it was upset/annoyed. My first thought was: The month three picture isn’t possible for most women and some would have to go to unhealthy extremes to achieve that look. The second thought was: I’m so sick of world telling us all the things we need to fix about ourselves. But then I realized that part of my frustration was because a small part of me told me that if I didn’t look like month three’s illustration than I was a failure. Here is my theory, I think we all have those negative thoughts that pop up here and there and tell us we aren’t good enough, smart enough, working hard enough, or whatever. But we also have the power to not listen to those thoughts and to throw them out of our minds realizing that they are only lies. Because the truth is the world can’t make us feel like a failure unless we believe it. I’ve been over weight and I’ve been skinny. I remember when I was probably about 10 or 11 trying on jeans at a store with my mom and realizing that the jeans didn’t fit me like the models. They weren’t form fitting in the hips and thighs, instead they fit baggy and loose and just looked like a scrawny girl in jeans. I remember wishing I had bigger thighs. Skip ahead a decade or so and I had gain some weight and was getting fitted for a brides maids dress and the lady made a point to always bring me bigger sizes and she told me I need to do two sizes up from my jean size in front of all the other girls who she has just told only to go one size up. I cried and felt broken but picked myself up and made a plan and lost 15lbs by my friend wedding. People will try to put you in a box and the world will make you feel inadequate. But you don’t have to let them! It’s your choice to be happy who who you are. No one can take it away from you. So brush yourself off and be fucking proud because you are a damn warrior!