How many people made this decision and could afford it and make it work even if it was a surprise or total shock or even if it was planned? I wanted two, had 3 pregnancies & lost one. My heart longs for what that baby could have been like but I know when I had my miscarriage it just was gods way of saying it wasn't the right time. Many people say having kids you're never ready but so many people have multiplie kids and pregnancies and are good and their babies are so close. How do you work it out with 2 plus kids and depending on ages how do all of them adapt to another sibling?