My husband and I have been together for 11 years and married for 4 come September. He is one of 4 , my husbands mother has four boys total. I had my first child in February of 2016 and my second child December 2017. His younger brother had their first child July 2017. His parents never come around to see their first grandchild in fact they make nothing but excuses and put his brothers child first. When I address it to my husband and how it makes me feel I’ve gotten a I understand and that it’s wrong but nothing on the I’ll talk to them aspect. I can count on one hand how many times his dad has come by to see my oldest since she’s been born and she’s 2, they go see their younger sons child everyday and even blast it all over fb. While I’m not in for drama or conflict with family I feel that they’re wrong on so many levels and i cannot stomach it anymore. I’ve got a 2 yr old that’s afraid of my husbands family but loves mine to death. I want them to have a relationship with their first granddaughter like they posted about online. Mind you when I was pregnant with my first child my mother in law redid the whole bedroom my husband grew up in as a nursery when it came time to have her we were looking for daycare but no place would take her until she was three months home and my maternity leave was only 8 wks long so my mother in law said she’d watch her for us when I went back to work, which was supposed to be for her first year of life however two wks before I went back to work she asked if we found a daycare yet because she had a life and didn’t want to be watching her Monday through Thursday. Which i understand but a little more then two weeks notice would of been better and on top of that she said she was busy with her life. She’s never worked. She was a stay at home mom so she never knew what it was like having to be up all night and go into work for a ten hr shift with no sleep to come home and do it all over again. She told us before i went back to work that she would watch my daughter for a day out of the week to cut down daycare costs since every place we found was going to cost us 250 a week, regardless of how many days spent. I told her if we paid 250 a week that we wouldn’t need her she’d go every day I worked. No daycare we found opens at 5am for drop off and would take a 2 month old so after a month of paying everything off when I went back to work , medical bills and credit card bills I quit to be a stay at home mom. She never once came by to see her granddaughter. I made every effort to see her. She has a lot of dogs which I’m allergic to and which my kid breaks out in hives around . The last two times I visited one dog bit my diaper bag and then he bit my hand. So i stopped visiting her at her house. Once my sister in law got pregnant she said to us she’d watch her only two days out of the week to save them money since they found a daycare that charges 25 a day and you pay for the time you go . She actually watches her more than she told us. When my child was born we only got a day she would give us. When their kid was born she practically moved in. She stays late to let them sleep at night and she’s always there to see her. My problem is with his parents that I don’t want my daughter to feel that she’s not worthy enough to love because her grandparents don’t ever make an effort to build a relationship with her or ever come see her. On her second birthday her 8 month old cousin was here and they put more attention into her then my daughter. My three and a half month old they’re all over when they ever decide to come around and my toddler needs them more as she’s requiring a relationship. They cancel stuff with us because his younger brother needs them and or they just have to see their granddaughter. My husbands mother mentioned she’d help us out after the baby was born because let’s face it two kids under two is rough! She never helped she said she never meant it as a permanent obligation and meant if as if I needed something. So far my girls have only seen their grandparents twice in February. They don’t think it’s wrong. On

My daughters actual birthday she just sent us a text for us to tell her so I face timed her literally a minute after she sent it. 3 x I called and she never answered. She said the next day she was busy with her younger sons daughter and his wife. That she didn’t hear the call during the day, when I mentioned it and sent a screenshot of it a minute after her text Later at night she said oh she was just watching tv. We get every excuse in the book as to why they’re helping them out and why they can’t come see the girls. They buy them items for their guilt. I told my husband if he doesn’t say anything to them come summer or sooner I’ll snap. That my girls deserve the same amount of time effort energy and love that they’re giving their other granddaughter. They’re missing out. My daughter loves my parents. I just wished my baby could have a relationship with her fb grandparents as well.