dont feel sexy

was talking to a friend earlier this week about lingerie. i told her that i dont really buy it cause i feel uncomfortable in my own skin and i dont feel like im sexy... like nothing really WOWs my SO... she suggested that i get a matching pair of underwear to start of with (bra and panties) so i bought 2 pairs today. a plain black with lace set and a see through beige with black lace set. tried both of them... no reaction. all i got was an "Ok"... really dont feel comfortable dressing up cause this is what im afraid of. i dont feel sexy. and it doesnt help that i get no reaction when i try to be... he tries to tell me that they just dont work for him cause he finds me attractive either way... just ruins the mood...