Need to ask to date younger????

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My bf of 4 years is 20 years younger than me. In fact my oldest son is 3 months older than him but we have a good solid relationship. Anyway his mother has always been funny acting with me and doesn’t really seem like she likes me. I can understand she doesn’t want her son with a woman old enough to be his mother but he’s a grown man and can decide for himself. When I spoke with her, she says she feels like I should’ve talked to her before I started dating him and asked her if it was okay. He was 23 at the time so idk why she’s holding this against me. Shouldn’t a guy that be able to make up his own mind?

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I think she's saying this out of her own discomfort about your relationship. It's none of her business who her son dates, and no you are not required to ask his mother's permission to date him. He's his own man.

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I'm the much younger one in my relationship and I encountered resistance from many others, but eventually they get used to it, even if they don't exactly like it. It takes time. Most people are not okay with age gap relationships if they are older, and it's hit or miss with younger people. My relationship has an age gap of 31 years, he speaks a different language than me (but I know enough of his language and he knows some of mine), and we are obviously an interracial couple. You've just got to let that judgment roll off your back and prove that you're in it because you love your man and that what he thinks of you is all that matters. If she sees him happy, she'll eventually have to change up her act to some extent. Good luck!

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I’m the older one in my relationship too. I just turned 41, my guy is 22. At first we weren’t really sure where things could or even would head. Neither one of us was looking. We just clicked.
His family has been awesome and very excepting to me and our relationship. His parents are 9 and 10 years older then me. My family has been awesome too, knowing that I’ve found happiness. Love is love, don’t question it.

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I’m 14 years older than my husband and fortunately, I have a good relationship with my in laws. If my MIL has any issues with the age difference, she has not let it show. She always tells me she loves me and thanks me for being good to her son. Honestly, I can’t say how I would feel about one of my boys being involved with an older woman. I’m sure I will be critical to a certain extent when my boys become seriously involved with someone, but as long as my boys are happy it really won’t be any of my business. My boys are 11 and 4 so I will have plenty of time to practice keeping my mouth closed if I don’t have anything nice to say.  To your point- no, you shouldn’t need his mom’s approval. Best of luck to you!

Need to ask to date younger????

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