in laws not doing what I ask

Hello everyone. I don't know if I am being oversenstive but if not I wanted some advice on how to handle this. My in laws looked after my little boy at the weekend. We asked that they fed him upstairs in our bedroom (as that is where he currently sleeps) as it helps to keep the room dark and not overstimulate him. He always goes back to sleep and we never have any problems. We also recommended that they give him an extra blanket if the gro egg says that the room is too cold and to not fiddle with the heating. When we got home my little boy was sleeping downstairs. they told us that he wouldn't settle so they brought him downstairs and kept him awake for an hour "having fun" before he fell back asleep. We later found out that they had face timed their son who lives abroad - so he obviously wasn't that unsettled! they also tried to fiddle with our heating as the room was allegedly too cold. My mother in law was also worried because my little boy kept rubbing his head on the mattress (he does this to self soothe). I suspect that this was to keep their own anxieties at bay rather than meeting the needs of my baby. I just feel like they haven't taken on board what we asked and actually feel a little disrespected as a parent. I am probably over reacting but this is in conjunction with a number of other things. I just wanted some advice on how to handle this or views on whether I am over reacting. Thanks in advance