Church leaders

So me and my boyfriend are both church leaders with 4 others of 5th graders.

Me and my boyfriend had been having trouble with lust and not having sex... we haven’t had sex in 6months but we do still struggle... however we will not be doing that again until we are married .

Recently I’ve been so busy with school, clinicals and my job I wasn’t able to show up once. One of the leaders who is a bit younger than me then told my boyfriend “well if she wants to lead she needs to be here. Why doesn’t she just quit” well my boyfriend told me he explained to her that I am a full time student with clinicals (ambulance shifts) and working my job. Now she has this sarcastic attitude towards me.

I personally feel that right now I do not need to lead at church anymore because I feel that I do not be a leader right now because I had sex before marriage and because I have bad feelings toward the girl who has been rude to me lately. I love being apart of teaching those kids but for some reason everyone thinks I don’t enjoy it because I don’t have a fake “I’m always happy” attitude that everyone else does... my boyfriend even said he thinks that I wasn’t really into it but honestly I loved it with a passion.. IT REALLY SUCKS... I really want to be there but i already said i quit.. apart of me did it because I was angry at that girl and about what my boyfriend told me..

Did I do the right thing? Or do I need to make it a step further and tell the church that me and my boyfriend had sex before marriage that was about 6 months ago? Do I just ignore that girl and let her be rude to me?

I never wanted to quit... I just was so fed up with everyone else talking about me..