Gosh this is irritating

ttc sucks once you've hit over a year, it's hard to trust test now a days because they seem to be getting worse with evaps and indents so now I feel like I cant trust a test, everyone always say well you arent out until af shows well there are people with irregular periods that are probably out but since they have irregular periods they still have invalid hope. and I've also realized that ALOT of the women on the app are just so mean and bitter sadly I've noticed I get decent kind responses on the general pregnancy page because the women are all happy and finally pregnant and not bitter wth?