Hair Care “Under There” 🐱

So I am new to grooming “down under”. I never had a lot of public hair until recently and it’s bothering me. Especially because I’m getting t the age of wanting to be sexually active but I’m embarrassed to. Anyway I was wondering if any of you had advice on how to properly groom myself. Do I shave, trim, wax?? My parents are very conservative so no luck in talking to them.. I think shaving is easiest but idk how to do it without hurting myself or causing ingrown hairs. Please help with any tips for any method !!!