BDSM & kink: Where to start?

So I’m almost four months PP and life with a baby has definitely changed my sex life.

Shortly after our daughters birth I wanted to jump my husbands bones, and if I had the opportunity to and wasn’t bleeding profusely I probably would’ve in the hospital! 😂

Now just a few months later and I’m not interested in sex at all. I haven’t had an orgasm in two months (going on three) and the thought of sex just isn’t appealing anymore.

(We’re in the process of buying land and building a home halfway across the country so stress is also a big factor combined with breastfeeding)

SO- to switch things up, I want our boring vanilla sex life to get more kinky.

Last night I tied my husband up, blindfolded him, spanked him and put Bobby pins on his overly sensitive nipples.

Then I got flavored lube and gave him head, then got an ice cube, sucked on it and gave him head while my mouth was still cold. Then ran it across his body and licked the trail I’d left from the cube.

Then I put a cock ring on him, edged him three times and finally he couldn’t hold the fourth time back.

I also used a glove and some lube to try to massage his prostrate but as soon as I touched his butthole he squealed like a little girl and started screaming “safeword!!!” And flailing about trying to get away. Soooo that’s that I guess..... 😐

This is the kinkiest I’ve ever been, but I feel like I need to add more things to my repertoire.

Does anybody have any good suggestions I should try?

Suggestions don’t have to be BDSM specific, any kinky ideas are welcomed and appreciated!