Do I have a right to be offended?

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One of my moms friends (I’m assuming a church friend because my mom has a lot of friends & I had never seen this one before) came over to our house to get some food we had boxed up for her. As I let her inside the door she approached me talking about how big my belly was getting. (Currently 19 weeks pregnant) That didn’t bother me much, I like knowing my little girl is growing. My mom & her continued to talk in the living room for a few minutes as I sat on the floor doing my own thing. After a few minutes passed she turned to me & said “I just can’t believe you’re pregnant.. babies having babies”. I’m only 18 & had not planned on getting pregnant but now that I am almost 20 weeks, know the sex & have started gathering stuff for my girl, I obviously already love her so much & don’t care to hear anyone’s opinions on me being pregnant, even though everyone has them. It got super quiet & awkward after her statement & I kinda just stared at her dumbfounded. My mom could tell I was uncomfortable so changed the subject. Do I have a right to be offended at her statement? I get it. I’m a young mom, but I’m also going on 19 & I’m definitely not a baby, just young. I’ve been getting super offended lately over everyone’s opinions on me. When my mom announced she was going to be a grandma, one of her “friends” commented saying “not little Gracie”.. I hadn’t even seen this lady since I was like 4🙄 My mom replied yes & she responded “well all I can say is good luck”. Is it my pregnancy hormones or would this frustrate other young moms as well?

EDIT- I am currently still living with my mother but my boyfriend & I DO have a place. We haven’t moved in yet as we are still packing up both of our houses.

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In general I do not think it's ideal for an 18 year old to have a baby (there are exceptions but I'm speaking in terms of most situations). She probably should have kept her mouth shut, but I'm sure you can understand how she feels you might be too young especially if you're still living with your parents etc.

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i always tell ppl...the lord said to be fruitful and multiply...not when to. You are 18, a young adult, yh sure in society its a young age to have a child you still have life ahead of you but a baby wont stop that. In fact a baby may motivate you to succeed. I'm an optimist so i don't get down on young mothers. I'm only 20 so im young too. I dont have a child though but if it were me i wouldnt give a damn. Enjoy your pregnancy and your baby girl.

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Uh yes. You have every right to be offended. People like to push their opinions on others, regardless of how those opinions are going to make others feel. I know this is going to be hard to do, but try not to let it get to you. 
I really can’t stand women who say things that bring others down. If you asked for her opinion on teen pregnancy, then yes. She can go into her thoughts on ‘babies having babies’. But if all you did was stand there being pregnant - no. 
And if all you did was ask if you have a right to be offended - people shouldn’t be saying you shouldn’t be pregnant. Or asking if you live with your mom. 
Who cares.

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yes you do have a right to be offended as you are not 13 years old that you would be way to young to have a baby but you are 18 years old and you will have your mum's support whenever you will be struggling and it's no one's business on the fact that you got pregnant so early in life. I say it is a bit to early to be pregnant at your age but who the hell cares there are so many people getting pregnant even earlier then you and no one says anything and just because your mum is friends with old days people then they will be looking at you wired like you don't know what you are doing. just like me I wanted to have a baby ever since I was 15 years old but I'm glad that I didn't get pregnant until now that I'm 22 as I can say I'm ready to be a mum now then I ever been before and I'm sure that you will be an amazing mum even at the your age and the earlier you have a baby the easier will be for you later as when you be 29 your baby will be 10 and she can help you in a kitchen a little and with some cleaning and even with your future baby if you plan to have more. so don't bother yourself with what those old women are saying just do what makes you happy and be an goon mum answer that's all that matters

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Some people lack tact and just say what's on their mind,  it caring if it offends anyone.  I know her words bothered you, but try to not let it get you down too much.  When my fiancé and I told his grandma we got engaged, she replied," no, it's too soon.  I don't know if I should offer my congratulations or condolences."  I just laughed it off....but did let my fiance's mom tell her that I was pregnant later because I was worried about how she was going to react!

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are you married or living on your own with your boyfriend or able to financially support yourself? If not you are a child still and too young to be having a baby. it's honestly all about circumstances.

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Are you still living with your mother?

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was this lady older? in my grandmother's generation it was very normal to get married and have babies at 18 or 19. I think my grandmother was 19 with her first. I know my mom was 17 with her first. you're not doing anything that hasn't been done for ages. I would have been annoyed too.

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The babies having babies may not be about you being young, it may be that she knew about you when you were a kid and it is weird realizing that you are having kids now.  I'd feel the same way if my young cousins - who I knew when they were little - had babies.  And they would be totally within the norm to have babies now - they are in their early twenties! - but I changed their diapers.  It'd feel weird.

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People always have comments to make no matter what your age! I’m 32 and 18 weeks pregnant with my first. People have been asking me for years when I was going to have a baby! It’s like that’s none of your business! I just would shrug and say idk someday. My aunt and uncle had both been married previously before they got married. Then they had fertility problems. My aunt was in her 40’s before she had my 2 cousins. She told us she had a plumber ask if they were her grandkids! Yeah it was a rude comment but don’t let it get to you!

Do I have a right to be offended?

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