In-laws and resentment.

So does anyone else have an extremely dramatic relationship with their inlaws? I just need to rant about how crazy things have gotten over the past couple months after moving back in with them.... to be honest, even just living close to them wasn't pleasant (we were living in a camper behind their house when my hub and I got married) his mom has a tendency to scare people away, her other daughter inlaw won't visit or bring her kid over here. Now I TRY to live a Christian life, super respectful, humble.. But my husband sees me as the exact opposite bc I'm constantly going on about how much I would rather live anywhere else but here bc his mom will be rude and completely go out of her way to spite me and I can't do that anymore.. I haven't lived with my own family since I was 14 so being around a village of my husband's family doesn't feel right.. I want my husband all the time and the only reason I haven't left is bc I know he wouldn't come with me.... I'm worried he doesn't like the idea of adulting, I honestly forget I'm married bc it feels like I'm just living with a bf who I love but Its not like I can be a wife to him.. I have to follow his parents rules, as a grown woman, as if I'm a teenager again.. I respect his parents so much, I buy things for the house and help run their little buisness if I'm not at my actual job. I don't see why I can't get through to my husband that this is eventually going to put a huge strain on us if there is constantly another woman (his mom) not letting me be a wife. I can't spend time with my husband without someone in his family trying to get in between I can't go out with my husband bc his mom throws shade and says we need to be helping with thing around the house as if buying things and cleaning everything and running errands for everyone isn't enough. I honestly don't know or remember if I have even cooked a decent meal for my husband since we have been married I am pretty positive it sucks for him not having clean clothes and whatnot but I never have time but maybe once a week since there are always other people doing laundry with the detergent I buy of course. I can't stand the amount of shade this woman throws at me either, it's absolutely insane....I cant take care of my husband in a healthy way nor my animals or myself... Idk what to do anymore. I'm depressed . I can't move out of this room without getting some kind of anxiety attack or something. Someone pleasee tell me what to do in this situation! My marriage might eventually crumble and I am about to break down... I love my husband so much and I know he's doing what he can. But I feel he'd rather stay with his parents than go start a healthy life and family with me...