Approaching birth and controlling family

I’m starting to feel myself getting depressed already...NOT the feeling I want at 36w4d with the baby girl we tried so long for...

My family is not respecting my husband’s and my decisions about the birth (and I’m sure lots of things to come afterwards). They’re making me feel like a human incubator. I’m nearly 28 and they’re acting as if they can veto every decision we’ve made. For example, I want just my husband and I in the delivery room (I’ve always been uncomfortable with others seeing me sick/in pain). My mom isn’t going for that.

We also requested that only grandparents come visit in the hospital, and that everyone else wait a day or two until we’re home. I really want to focus on learning to take care of our baby before we leave the hospital and don’t want a stream of visitors the second she’s here. Everyone is complaining about hurt feelings.

I even cut my hair in preparation for her arrival (I personally felt it was too long and unmanageable for me) and everyone told me I shouldn’t have done that. Literally can’t get behind even the smallest decision I make for my own well-being.

I went to dinner with my parents, aunt and grandfather tonight, and I got so frustrated, I told them “What I want during her birth should matter too!” And not one person agreed with me.

I feel like everyone just wants my baby and no one cares what will get me through this happy and comfortable.

I want so badly for her birth to be a happy time, not a time where everyone is mad or offended because of decisions I made.