single mom of 4 trying to mingle

ok ladies help me out, I am recently divorced but I haven't had any attention for over a year. I feel hopeless, I don't want a relationship but I also don't want to be judged for having 4 kids. I have a career, I work out but I am insecure about my chest. I had a lumpectomy in both breast and now I am flat chested.i left a relationships that was pathetic... i only had sex to get pregnant. i was young and didnt know about chemiastry or that i could want something for myself to be happy can anyone relate ? I just want to feel like a woman ,and be treated like a woman!