Finally living together 😍 and... 😐

My SO always leave his socks everywhere, just now putting his shoes back near the front door (don't where outside shoes around the house) , leave rillo packs laying around, food in the sink after he "washes dishes", only "wash dishes" but don't wipe the stove, leave wet dishes out knowing we ain't got room for them, when taking shower leaves hair in the tub. Leaves his backpack wherever he drops it, uses my weed grinder and don't put it back, and just ugghhh!!!!!!!!!! 😣How do I tell him that 'we need to work on some shit, cause I'm not cleaning up after you nor will I live in a messy house!! So you don't have no choice but to clean up!!'😑 Cause he already think I'm controlling to a certain degree so I don't want to come off that way. 🤦🏽‍♀️ UPDATE: WE STARTED ARGUING!!!!! So I told him that I'm going to do me and you do you. Smh