Is there a middle ground?

What a shit show. I’m at an impasse with the SO. LDR fucking sucks. I’m a planner, I like to schedule things and put in my calendar and make sure they happen. My SO keeps telling me to take things one week at a time with no guarantee of seeing each other any time soon. I want to schedule visits and know it’s coming up. He doesn’t want to or sometimes can’t do that. It keeps coming up as a sticking point. I get anxious about the next visit and he gets made about that. Is it that bad to want to schedule a visit? What’s the middle ground here?