Trying too soon?

Question

So we had a miscarriage about 2 weeks ago. We weren’t exactly trying then but still overjoyed. Well since the lost my SO wants to starting trying and I’m terrified. Part of me does want to start trying but the other part of me is sooo scared to lost another one. Can anyone give me some advice or just when they knew they were ready?

Answer

Miscarriage is horrible and I am sorry for your loss. I’ve had three & am currently pregnant with my rainbow. I can say that for me the fear didn’t go away no matter how long we waited, it’s natural given our loss. I live by that saying “let your faith be greater than your fear” I can’t say how many times I’ve contemplated giving up but didn’t. I found myself to be a fighter and admired my own strength. When I found out about this pregnancy I was so anxious and still constantly check for spotting etc and I gather unfortunately that’s what miscarriages do to future pregnancies. BUT you find joy & happiness in the milestones when I went to my first sono I was a mess because our last sono was a blighted ovum. All of my losses had zero development & when the ultrasound tech showed us the baby & we heard the heartbeat I burst into tears & it made all the hurt worth it. You guys try when you do feel ready but it’s my opinion that there will be a bit of anxiety associated with it. Baby dust to you xx

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I'm so sorry for your loss 💋💗having been through the same myself the only thing I can tell you is that you can start trying again when you feel ready but as an advice don't just rush into it while you're still grieving... to me it was devastating I was months psychologically affected and I guess I still am a bit. it's been 8 months and I still cry if I think to much about it. what I mean is make sure that you're emotionally ready for the rolacouster that is ttc, it might not happen strait away and bfn might get you further down in depression if you're not emotionally ready and strong. Best of luck to you 😘💋💗💙🌹

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I think it’s instinctual for men to want to fix things. My husband wanted to try right away again after our miscarriage, but I told him I needed to wait at least one cycle before trying again. I just couldn’t do it mentally or emotionally. I would just have an open and honest conversation with him about it. Wishing you lots of healing, light and love moving forward ♥️

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I don’t want to be negative here, but you really have to think about « what if it happens again ». Do you think you can take it or you would be completely destroyed?

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