what would you call this??

***before i write this post and get people’s opinions i want to make it clear that i have filed a report on him, i don’t live with him anymore, but yes, my mom and him are still dating***

so around christmas time of 2016 my step dad went into my room around 2:00 in the morning and just started touching me underneath my clothes. long story short he did this three times after that on different occasions. one time he took pictures and another time he stuck his finger in me. my mom knew every single time it happened along with all of the details and she always promised it wouldn’t happen again but i didn’t believe her after he continued to do it over and over again. in between these four times if i were to sit close to him while watching t.v. he would pretend to hug me but he would pull my t-shirt away from my body to see down my shirt and to specifically my chest. he would also put his hand down towards my butt in pictures. sometimes when we would swim together with my mom and brother he would playfully throw me up in the air but when he got ready to throw me he would put his hands near my vagina.

in conclusion i just want to know what this would be called. no one will give me a direct answer. my friend’s mom says it’s rape because i never said yes but i also never said no so i don’t think it’s rape. my grandma says he molested me and my boyfriend and his parents say he assaulted me. i’m so confused and i just want to know what it’s really called.