Am I in the Wrong?

Sorry this might be a little long. Please bear with me and understand that I am doing all this without the express intent to harm anyone.

I was raised in a hyper religious family and wasn’t allowed to date until I was sixteen. I didn’t date until recently because I wasn’t interested in any of it. I’m nineteen now, a legal adult, and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about nine months now. Secretly. The rules of my parents are that any man who wants to date me has to talk to my father and any dates I go on must be chaperoned by my father. We’re never to be alone together.

So I’ve kept my boyfriend a secret. He attends a university an hour away so we only see each other twice a week. I have my own car and pay for it by myself. I have a steady job that pays well, and I pay my own phone bill and for my groceries. I live with my parents but that is only until I graduate this December and then I’m moving out.

I only hide my boyfriend because I’m not religious and neither is he. My parents would hate him for that and kick me out of the house for not being religious. I am not exaggerating, I have six siblings and more than one has been kicked out for not sharing their religion.

I am breaking my parents rules. But the only rules they have explicitly stated are don’t do drugs and don’t get pregnant. The dating rules they have let lapse since my sister started dating.

I intend to tell my parents about my boyfriend once I move out. He and I are serious and love each other. We have even talked about marriage and children after college.

This isn’t a question about my boyfriend wanting to meet my parents. My dad will say that he is less of a man for not asking him first, but I think my boyfriend is a great man for respecting my decision as an adult not to tell my parents yet. He says he will gladly meet them when I’m ready.

And this isn’t a question about me being embarrassed or not loving him enough. It’s about me loving him, protecting him and myself from my parents wrath.

Sorry this has been long. We’re smart about our relationship and it’s not unhealthy. I’m happier since meeting him.

So am I in the wrong? Am I doing the right thing? Any more advice or encouragement? I’m feeling a bit conflicted. Please be kind and not hateful, as per the eve guidelines.