Husbands female friends ? Please please advise!

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My husband of 3 years hides his internet social life and whenver I have looked, i have almost always found random girls whom he has private conversations with- while Im sleeping. He says he is entitled to his privacy and has friends who he talks to and it is none of my business. Obviously as his wife, it is upsetting for me that my husband hides his female friends who he has met online. I have always told him, i dont mind if he has female friends- just dont hide it from me!! Nothing has changed in all these years. Im not sure why my husband has this online addiction- and why I should tolerate this? He does not care about my feelings and does not plan to change this habit. He never apologizes, he always covers up by saying, “the conversations are meaningless” He also goes on to blame me by stating that I am “insecure” and I am the one who has issues while what he does is completely acceptable.
He says- “I can talk to anyone in front of ur back or behind- I’m an adult- u don’t need to be so insecure about it”

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Okay first of all, it is your business the moment he married you, you are a team. Don’t let this man disrespect you like that. Everyone deserves privacy, BUT to an extent. When he says “they mean nothing”, yeah okay! If it’s none of your business then why should he get upset about it?? Seems like he is trying to hide something.

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I only read the first two lines...  hides his Internet life....  Red Fucking Flag.  I understand privacy, but to hide stuff from you says something is up.  Talk to him.

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Oh no he’s in the wrong. He’s hiding something for a reason. I wouldn’t put it with it. Good luck with everything

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you are not insecure you have reason to feel the way you do because he is being secretive and saying it's not your business when it is you are his wife you have a right to know about his friends unless it's something more to it that hes hiding I would stand my ground and let him know your boundaries and what you expect of him as your husband and if he cant accept it it's time to think about you guys future

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Why hide them if they are meaningless?? Doesn’t add up. He’s not respecting you..

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My husband has nothing to hide, and is loyal to a fault. with that being said, one of the females that was chatting him up (Im talking she would write paragraphs on her life story) eventually took it too far. Back story, she is 3 states away and *I* originally connected with her because we got puppies from the same litter. He didn't have time for her convos really. He'd give her advice on dating or be like "thats cool. i hope that works out for you!" type of answers. But i opened my tablet one day and he was logged in to facebook- again NBD. But their chat was open and this little BZ had the nerve to say " I probably shouldn't send this to you because your wife would probably be mad, but i think its hella funny..." (Pissed me off cause she admits she knew better) and proceeds to send him a waist high topless selfie with christmas name tags for nipples. Lord. Have. Mercy. I blew my shit. He came home and was like uhhh why are you cleaning so tough? i lost it. i said I dont think you will cheat on me, i dont even think you give a shit about her. But im going to address her if you do not. he was totally understanding, he knew i wasnt mad at him. but we ended up meeting her 3 months later and she was super uncomfortable because she knew i saw her shame titties.

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Um when you two married two became one so heck yeah it’s your business. He has some nerve and a big problem if he is sneaking around like that. No respect. Smh. What a jerk. You deserve better queen 👸🏽 ❤️

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Does he truly understands the definition of being married? He shouldn't have gotten married if he still wants to be private. Marriage is about 2 souls joining together as one. You share everything! Secrets destroy marriages... You are not insecure and nothing is wrong with you. He is clearly hiding something. I have guy friends and I would not care if my man reads our conversation.

Husbands female friends ? Please please advise!

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