Surgery or no surgery

So my hubby and I met with a doctor the other day to talk fertility issues. We have been trying for 14 months with nothing.

So of course doctor has nothing but doom and gloom for me. First off-I am over weight-in her words morbidly obese, secondly I am officially pre diabetic, and my progesterone in low....again. Oh and I am on massive doses of BP meds that are pregnancy safe but I am at the top doses of each med-which she said is not good.

Once I went off birth control I gained 45 pounds about as fast as Thanos snapped his finger.

So she is recommending surgery-gastric sleeve because she said that is the fastest way to get my body healthy enough, quick enough to have a baby safely-I am about to be 36. She said I need to lose at least 100 pounds. We have been going to the gym daily and I barely eat and I have only lost 7 pounds-probably water weight.

My hubby and I have been very much against the surgery but the more the doctor talked to me about the more I realized she had some very valid points. I am scared of side effects, not making it through surgery, and my hubby no longer finding me attractive(I know...I am insecure). He told me if that is what I need to do to make myself feel better about everything then I should do it. Side note: he is about 15 months younger and feels I still have plenty of time.

So I guess I am looking for advice....because I am totally at a loss of what to do

Oh and we waited so long to try because my daddy was terminally ill and we were helping Care for him the last 2 and half years. He passed in October.

This is my hubby with my twin sisters baby that was born in January-he’s gonna be a great Daddy someday!