orgasm advice.

I have never had a high sex drive, neither does my husband. I would say we have sex about 1-2 times a week. some times we go a week or 2 without it. I do not masturbate so I know it's nothing to do with being desensitized. lately I have had a hard time reaching an orgasm even if I am super turned on. and we are doing all the normal things that would normally make it happen super quick. I need some tips or advice on how to be able to make it happen. (I'm DESPERATE) 😂😂 I thought I should also add that I have recently been having a hard time staying wet. I've never had this happen in the 7 years we've been together.